What I Want to Do

I was in grade 5. One day our teacher took the whole class to the playground. Where they have arranged different games for us, like football, cricket and some other running games. (I don’t remember all of them.)

When asked which game I wanted to play. I went for football. But after playing football for some 10 min, I watched around other students playing different games. I said to myself, “I don’t want to play football, instead I want to play cricket.”

And when I was handed the cricket ball, and bowled one or two overs. I said to myself, “I don’t want to be a bowler, instead I want to play as a batsman.”

And then I played cricket as a batsman next few years at school.

In 2006, I got admission in BS, and chose Physics as my major. After reading and failed tries of memorizing Physics for a year. I learned that I’m not a Physics guy.

Then I went to Economics and Political Science, but the only courses which I wanted were taught at senior level. Which meant I should have taken the basic course first.

In my first Political Science’s class, the teacher was very rude. She said something like this: “No one is going to tell me how to teach and how much to teach. And when I’m teaching, no one can interrupt to ask question etc.”

Later a fellow told me that, once a student proposed her for marriage before whole class. So now she takes extra care. The other Economics teacher was also not someone you can trust to learn from.

So, I hated those basic courses. I left them. And now I don’t remember which courses I studied in that year. But things went on.

In my second year at college, I was looking through course atlas where I found the description of Business Communication course interesting. So after giving some thoughts, I decided to take that course. I loved it.

Business Communication was probably my favorite course during my college years. Why? Everything this course had, have something to do in real life. I went to internet to take help. And I never turned back to college again. I dropped it.

I stayed at college for next one and half year, where I spent most of time reading business magazines and making notes of them. I especially was interested how people build business from scratch and how they turn tragedies into motivational tools.

Next I started learning how internet can be used. And this is where I am today, using it for my business.

What I have learned from my these experiences is this:

” You don’t get to know what you really want (or want to do), unless you start doing something. If you’ll do one thing, the experience will help you find out what is for you and why are you. “

So if you’re at some point wondering what you want to do (or can do). Start doing one thing which is before you. Go for your first call. May be you’ll fall at wrong place. But the experience of this wrong place shall eventually get you to the right place.

Also remember: DOING helps you think clearly. DO something.

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Please Write Email In 5 Sentences or DON’T

We no longer like emails as much as we used to do. Why. This is because it takes lot of time and still the uncertainty stays with it.

In fact now people are buying t-shirts like the one below. I think I and you need one too. It can be purchased from here.

Any way.. let’s move on.

Writing email and business letter was first thing which I learned back in 2007. I’m still learning how to write an email under 5 sentences.

One thing which I learned about email and many people miss is: The purpose of email is to get the work done. Email is not about all-this-and-that.

It is all and only about to get the work done.

Here is how I do it.

  • please don’t write email. please. unless it is truly needed.
  • please write them back at earliest, as they wrote because it was truly needed.
  • if all you need to give them one sentence information, send ’em a text message or make a call.
  • write action points in bold.
  • if someone has written you an email to inform about something important, please write ’em back that you have read the email.
  • make full use of subject to provide heart of the message.
  • avoid formal sentences.
  • use words, instead of sentence.
  • use many fullstops. When you add fullstop you mean it in what so ever.
  • make use of bullets.
  • make use of social media. If you can approach to the receiver fatser using Facebook or Twitter, go for it.

Like me, if you are one who likes short email messages. Consider adding your tip(s) in comments below.

Cheers.

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7 Things I Learned By Listing My Fears

A week back I wrote my fears and emailed them to 4 of my friends. Actually we had this activity where everyone in team wrote his fears (personal + business) and shared with the whole group. I wrote few things like: I’m afraid of:

  • of what I say. I feel bad, really bad when I don’t fulfil my words
  • of being left alone
  • being lived in very backward part of the world (but I love it)
  • of my past, which has nothing not do with future
  • getting insulted in public, for any mistakes which I made some three years back
  • having no money
  • my bad English.
  • etc etc.
  • publishing this post (it just came into my mind.)

Here is what I learned from this valuable and (what seemed very difficult at first, but) easy exercise.
1. Some of the fears we have are real, but at the same time the solution is so just on the opposite side of the fear. But we get frightened and do not look at fears for solutions.
2. If you have fear of something, it means you can 100% counter that fear. You posses all the tools, power and whatsoever, fear doesn’t exist without solution.
For example, I’m afraid of not having money, but at the same times. I have abilities to address this. And why I am not afraid of losing the US President election, because I am not interested. That fear is around Obama and other people who’re affiliated with Presidency.
Or you can add other example: Fear of Publishing this post once it is completed. I’m only having this fear now, today, never before. Because this is first time I’m going to write my fears and tell you about them.

3. The point is, you’re afraid when you’re THINKING to make something. Fear is good. It means you are thinking to make. But only thinking doesn’t make anything, so you need to act. And when you act, you eliminate the fear of getting started. And now you are game.
4. What seems you as your weakness, others see that as your strength. (Taught by Peter)
5. Share your fears with true friends, and they can surely help you in some means to get rid of those fears.
6. Everything what we listed as fear, is not fear anymore. It is just that old ego screaming, taking it last chances to protect status quo.  (Taught be Ivana)
7. Folks at some big corporate world, list their fears and hopes about the new product or task and share with each member. This help them make the best of their abilities and at the same time, it clears minds.
8. Bonus After doing this exercise I look into my fears with a positive approach, rather than making myself sad about being poor or what ever hell. I have not yet listed my Hopes anywhere. But I shall look into making this possible too.
Discussion Points:

What you think of writing your fears, and sharing them with some friends? Have you ever done so? Do you think people should do it at companies or in start-up world? Do you believe it can help you make better use of your brain rather then pumping it with fears. I look forward to your words.

Important and more: If you have never written you fears. Even after reading this post. You’ll just get 17% of what it means to write down fears. To get the rest of 83% you need to do it yourself. Go do it.
Thank you to very good friends Peter, Stiivi and Ivana. Without them I would never know why fears exist. And what the hell it has to do with us. I hope you’ll have this fear of writing your fears. Good Luck!

Also learn:
– Being the first one to cross river
– Getting up in easy way
– Be present even if you are not prepared

Without Knowing the Equation

Hello friends, hope each and everyone is striving to be great. Same is here on my side, 2011 hasn’t been a year of success but still I and you are not done with it.

Some of you might know, these days I’m in my hometown Basirpur, living with my family. But also I’m working on to address some new problems / opportunities. Will tell you more when I’ll be changing my place and responsibilities.

Also I’ve learned something really surprising lately. Here it is.

We enjoy many incidents without ever knowing the true equation behind them.

For example for the last three years I’ve been connecting with new friends, from different social and geographical backgrounds. And the results of these connections have always been incredible, true friendship, business opportunities and learning experience.

But the real equation was revealed to me by a good friend Scott Gould, he stated this.

Diversity unites us.

And today I learned this incredible lesson from a story. As Laozi might have said,

… sometimes the journey of a single step starts with a thousand miles in the opposite direction.

Amazing lesson indeed!

Have you ever had experience something, without knowing what’s going on? Please share your learning in comments below. Thank you.

(story) There is Always a Chance, and There is Always a Choice

Watch this yourself.

” The is always a chance, and there is always a choice. Instead of doing nothing with myself.  I want my son to see me singing on stages because life is too precious to waste. “

Thanks to the best known videos curator Sami Ullah for pointing this video.

More true stories:

Are You Inspired By Yourself? BE!

When making a list of inspirational people. We focus on individual(s), who’s work, achievements and/or failures have touched us emotionally.

Whenever we think of an inspirational hero, we recall his story and immediately look for a way to apply that in our real life.

What is getting inspiration from within? This is something I often think about. The reason I am penning it finally is, today a new (Facebook) friend, Andreas Ittermann, who added himself to his list of inspirational people.

Here is what I think why we’re most inspired by no one, but us.

If you ever happen to encourage a kid or student, especially after a mistake or a failure. We use their past experience, small achievements for a proof that they can be successful or get up.

Or take it in this way, when I watched invictus, the movie about Nelson Mandela.

I reminded myself of the time when I defeated a 9 month long disease, which almost killed me. I recall some darkest periods of my 23 years long life, I’m the guy who studied a school where were no furnitures, who now wants to be something big, more than what I or you think.

Yes, this is the science or art behind the self inspiration. We watch, read, listen or learn about great people, stories. We think of ourselves doing the same in our circumstances. No one is true hero, but you’re.

Now just take a deep breath.

Think for 5 moments when you made youself WOW! When you did something which saved a life (yours, family member, or even a fly), when you born your baby. Or when you made your wife laugh.

You were are the hero of that moment, you’re the hero of this moment.

Take inspiration from anywhere, save it and cook it within yourself. Get inspired by yourself and take action.

Remember result doesn’t matter the most, action does.

Go add yourself in the list of your inspiration people.

Go be Hero of yourself. And I trust anyone, including and especially you, can be a hero. If you don’t believe, read here.

Very Related Post:
Being the First One to Cross the River

I Am Afraid, I Shall Look Dumb

That’s how we feel when we are unsure of our answer or comment about the ongoing topic.

Teacher asks class to raise hands if you have something to say, and you become uncomfortable. And then you keep your mouth shut because you’re afraid you might get it really wrong and everyone will know you’re dumb.

Though it didn’t happen with me as much during school days.

But it is happening now some time.

Few days back I was thinking about writing my insight on possible changes in Facebook at f8 conference.

At one moment I thought to pen my thoughts. I rejected it, because I was afraid I will feel dumb.

Now I really feel being stupid about that. I should have done so, I would have learn more, even if I were wrong.

But lesson learned.

Now when I am writing this post, I am having same kind of  feelings, because a lot has already been said and written about this phenomena. But now I know, I will be real dumb, if I’ll not write it.

Related Posts

– Be Genuine, to Make WOW
– Enjoy Being Friends of Your Customer
– Deliver Celebration, Deliver Happiness

Speaking Truth to Tell a Lie and The Other Way Around

Sometimes we speak lie to state truth. (Artists face it quite often)

And…

Sometimes we speak truth to tell a lie. (Happens with people not often, but as written sometimes)

It is 4:34 am in Pakistan right now, and I did spend whole night before computer and reading a book.

Now if I tell someone intentionally that I didn’t sleep last night, he will perceive Waqas is very hard working. Which is not always true.

Yes sometimes we speak truth to tell a lie.

and the other way around.

What do you say?

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Today’s Learning — Behind the World of Online

Behind the world of online, real people exist with real problems.

Yesterday, one of my online friends, who promised to be offline friend too. He passed away, he took his life. No words over this loss.

This is his last tweet

https://twitter.com/#!/treypennington/status/110356735016972288

This is the world we all are creating.

Read more about Trey Pennington

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