One day a fruit seller while passing through a village enters into an empty street. He stops by under a tree shadow to take some rest. Then after taking some rest and drinking water he starts dancing for himself.
While he is focused dancing, a group of street kids watch him from distance and slowly come closer, sit down quietly and don’t interrupt. When the guy ends his dance, he finds the kids sitting there. He passes them a smile. Children ask him to dance again, but he has to go.
But inside him, he promise that he would come again in the street and dance for himself (and the kids would enjoy too). He irregularly visits the street, sometime once a week, once a month and sometime even after several months.
He’s not coming back to dance because of the children’s amusement but because of himself. He knows he should be doing it regularly.
I am the fruit seller. This blog is the street. Writing is like dancing for me. You’re the kids. Hello kids! I’m in the street again.
This Monday afternoon, I was walking back from a bank where I had some work. On my way back, there were few cars parked on the service road (frontage road) when I heard the sound of breaking glass.
It was a guy, who broke the door glass of a parked car to get the laptop + bag out. While his friend was on motorcycle ready to leave any second. When the guy near car saw me turning back, he signaled me to go back. But I kept advancing carefully.
The guy felt nervous, left the laptop bag in the car, and escaped on the bike with his friend.
Now I had no idea, where is the car owner. As there were couple of big buildings around and he could be in any of them. I thought to wait and guard his valuable bag and other stuff in the car. Actually I was afraid those guys can come back to take the bag. I waited for 30 min till the owner came.
When I was waiting, the idea of stealing came into my mind too. One of the major reasons was, I badly want and need a laptop.
I have no laptop of my own, this one which I am using now is of my friend Sidra and she is so nice to give it to me. But yes she needs it back too.
It was not just the thought of stealing came into my mind. Then I said to myself, “This laptop is very valuable to the owner as well, and he needs it to work on it too. So honestly return this property back to whoever is the owner.”
It is so nice now to think about what I decided, I felt like a hero after this. In fact some of my friends said this too. But believe me, it is ain’t so easy. And at the same time, it ain’t so difficult.
Later that evening, I got many good words from my friend and a very encouraging phone call from mom. That is the best reward.
Here is the response to my Facebook status update:
Let’s close it, so what makes us a hero.
1. I and you are always surrounded with the thoughts of being selfish and taking share of someone’ else. What matter is the patience, believing that earned is always better than the given.
2. If someone asks me, who is the most special person in the world. I would say that is me. Everyday I go against myself, to go with myself.
A week back I wrote my fears and emailed them to 4 of my friends. Actually we had this activity where everyone in team wrote his fears (personal + business) and shared with the whole group. I wrote few things like: I’m afraid of:
of what I say. I feel bad, really bad when I don’t fulfil my words
of being left alone
being lived in very backward part of the world (but I love it)
of my past, which has nothing not do with future
getting insulted in public, for any mistakes which I made some three years back
having no money
my bad English.
publishing this post (it just came into my mind.)
Here is what I learned from this valuable and (what seemed very difficult at first, but) easy exercise. 1. Some of the fears we have are real, but at the same time the solution is so just on the opposite side of the fear. But we get frightened and do not look at fears for solutions. 2. If you have fear of something, it means you can 100% counter that fear. You posses all the tools, power and whatsoever, fear doesn’t exist without solution.
For example, I’m afraid of not having money, but at the same times. I have abilities to address this. And why I am not afraid of losing the US President election, because I am not interested. That fear is around Obama and other people who’re affiliated with Presidency.
Or you can add other example: Fear of Publishing this post once it is completed. I’m only having this fear now, today, never before. Because this is first time I’m going to write my fears and tell you about them.
3. The point is, you’re afraid when you’re THINKING to make something. Fear is good. It means you are thinking to make. But only thinking doesn’t make anything, so you need to act. And when you act, you eliminate the fear of getting started. And now you are game. 4. What seems you asyour weakness, others see that as your strength. (Taught by Peter) 5.Share your fears with true friends, and they can surely help you in some means to get rid of those fears. 6. Everything what we listed as fear, is not fear anymore. It is just that old ego screaming, taking it last chances to protect status quo. (Taught be Ivana) 7. Folks at some big corporate world, list their fears and hopes about the new product or task and share with each member. This help them make the best of their abilities and at the same time, it clears minds. 8. Bonus After doing this exercise I look into my fears with a positive approach, rather than making myself sad about being poor or what ever hell. I have not yet listed my Hopes anywhere. But I shall look into making this possible too. Discussion Points:
What you think of writing your fears, and sharing them with some friends? Have you ever done so? Do you think people should do it at companies or in start-up world? Do you believe it can help you make better use of your brain rather then pumping it with fears. I look forward to your words.
Important and more: If you have never written you fears. Even after reading this post. You’ll just get 17% of what it means to write down fears. To get the rest of 83% you need to do it yourself. Go do it.
Thank you to very good friends Peter, Stiivi and Ivana. Without them I would never know why fears exist. And what the hell it has to do with us. I hope you’ll have this fear of writing your fears. Good Luck!
Yesterday morning I spent 90 minutes watching this film, Life In A Day. My friend Sidra, pointed this to me. It is a user generated featured film, shot on July 24, 2010 by hundreds of people from all over the world.
The movie contain best of those shots, representing life which is similar every where in different scenario.
You can watch it free on YouTube, just click on the screenshot below or here. I really hope you too would enjoy watching the movie.
You sense it right, we are getting back at blogging.