We often recall our childhood period as most beautiful days of life.
I recently learned a very powerful yet often unknown reason which makes being a child so cool. The acceptance of not knowing most of the things.
I am a child, I openly admit that I do not know it already mostly. So I would not hesitate to ask anyone. I wouldn’t be afraid to try. I would stay open to change my opinion, if I would learn something. I would be happy to tell other that this is what I recently learned. I wouldn’t feel bad, if I say, “I don’t know answer to this question.”
In short, realization of not knowing most of the thing. And then a confident mindset to learn, to change opinion, to change the way I see life, to change the way I treat my family, neighbor pet, and especially myself. These are such awesome things.
When this thought came to mind, it put a question before me. Can I again accept the reality that I do not understand most of the things in life, so I should learn. It would made this time of life sweater. And very importantly it’ll help us grow up, which seems to become very difficult today.
“Life is first & small, yet most important phase, of my story.”
This Monday afternoon, I was walking back from a bank where I had some work. On my way back, there were few cars parked on the service road (frontage road) when I heard the sound of breaking glass.
It was a guy, who broke the door glass of a parked car to get the laptop + bag out. While his friend was on motorcycle ready to leave any second. When the guy near car saw me turning back, he signaled me to go back. But I kept advancing carefully.
The guy felt nervous, left the laptop bag in the car, and escaped on the bike with his friend.
Now I had no idea, where is the car owner. As there were couple of big buildings around and he could be in any of them. I thought to wait and guard his valuable bag and other stuff in the car. Actually I was afraid those guys can come back to take the bag. I waited for 30 min till the owner came.
When I was waiting, the idea of stealing came into my mind too. One of the major reasons was, I badly want and need a laptop.
I have no laptop of my own, this one which I am using now is of my friend Sidra and she is so nice to give it to me. But yes she needs it back too.
It was not just the thought of stealing came into my mind. Then I said to myself, “This laptop is very valuable to the owner as well, and he needs it to work on it too. So honestly return this property back to whoever is the owner.”
It is so nice now to think about what I decided, I felt like a hero after this. In fact some of my friends said this too. But believe me, it is ain’t so easy. And at the same time, it ain’t so difficult.
Later that evening, I got many good words from my friend and a very encouraging phone call from mom. That is the best reward.
Here is the response to my Facebook status update:
Let’s close it, so what makes us a hero.
1. I and you are always surrounded with the thoughts of being selfish and taking share of someone’ else. What matter is the patience, believing that earned is always better than the given.
2. If someone asks me, who is the most special person in the world. I would say that is me. Everyday I go against myself, to go with myself.
I am a hero!
Did you know you are a hero too?
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2003, I was invited to the home of my class fellow. I went to help him with exams, and during at his home.
To tell you the truth, people in my part of the world. Keep women covered and let them meet only with close relatives.
I somehow saw his mother. I excitingly asked him, “If your mother is teacher too.” (I was excited because my mother is a teacher and I’m very proud of her.)
He replied, “No, not at all. We do not let women do such (shameful) jobs.
28 years ago, when my mother was applying for her teaching job. Her younger brother complained to their mother, “So now Razia is going to be a teacher. People would say, look his sister is a teacher.”
Job of mother changed everything for our entire family. Also know, if she would not be teacher, I would be working at a factory or workshop without any formal education etc.
But instead, she changed my life. It changed everything.
Someone said it very truly:
If you educate a man you educate an individual, but if you educate a woman you educate a family (nation).
I promise to educate a nation (even if it would be small, it’s ok).
All this might come to you as surprise. But this is the real story of a real women.
Would you keep doing the good work, despite what other people say?
It is also true:
People don’t say very much, but we intentionally hear a lot about our fears.
Would you still be teacher no matter how many people discourage you? Would you still be changing lives? If you are afraid of doing something, please write your fears. Then see what happens.
She is truly the first one in our family to cross the river. Now gladly, I’m crossing many too.
Rest is said in this video, It Only Takes A Girl, watch it.
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2011 been the most unpredictable year of life, so far. And I just realized again, it is not over yet.
From Jan 01, to this day, 3 people impacted my life deeply. My friends Sidra and Ivana, and My Blog (yes I’m calling it alive person, because sometimes it is the most living form of me).
This blog started as a journey to be a better writer and as a better person. I’m not really sure about the level of progress, but I really love to write here. Really love to be here.
I also love the regular, as well as random readers of my blog. Thank you for being part of me.
Impacting lives of each other is especially via digital channels is something very rare. But I’m glad, I could somehow do it.
Thank you for being with. My thoughts are with you people, where ever in the world you are.
Why don’t you start your own blog?
The breath that you take during night, gets you through that moment and makes you ready for another one.
Every breath is special.
It provide you energy. It is opportunity for you to help yourself and others breath better.
I now wonder, why mix smoke in your breath.
I was in grade 5. One day our teacher took the whole class to the playground. Where they have arranged different games for us, like football, cricket and some other running games. (I don’t remember all of them.)
When asked which game I wanted to play. I went for football. But after playing football for some 10 min, I watched around other students playing different games. I said to myself, “I don’t want to play football, instead I want to play cricket.”
And when I was handed the cricket ball, and bowled one or two overs. I said to myself, “I don’t want to be a bowler, instead I want to play as a batsman.”
And then I played cricket as a batsman next few years at school.
In 2006, I got admission in BS, and chose Physics as my major. After reading and failed tries of memorizing Physics for a year. I learned that I’m not a Physics guy.
Then I went to Economics and Political Science, but the only courses which I wanted were taught at senior level. Which meant I should have taken the basic course first.
In my first Political Science’s class, the teacher was very rude. She said something like this: “No one is going to tell me how to teach and how much to teach. And when I’m teaching, no one can interrupt to ask question etc.”
Later a fellow told me that, once a student proposed her for marriage before whole class. So now she takes extra care. The other Economics teacher was also not someone you can trust to learn from.
So, I hated those basic courses. I left them. And now I don’t remember which courses I studied in that year. But things went on.
In my second year at college, I was looking through course atlas where I found the description of Business Communication course interesting. So after giving some thoughts, I decided to take that course. I loved it.
Business Communication was probably my favorite course during my college years. Why? Everything this course had, have something to do in real life. I went to internet to take help. And I never turned back to college again. I dropped it.
I stayed at college for next one and half year, where I spent most of time reading business magazines and making notes of them. I especially was interested how people build business from scratch and how they turn tragedies into motivational tools.
Next I started learning how internet can be used. And this is where I am today, using it for my business.
What I have learned from my these experiences is this:
” You don’t get to know what you really want (or want to do), unless you start doing something. If you’ll do one thing, the experience will help you find out what is for you and why are you. “
So if you’re at some point wondering what you want to do (or can do). Start doing one thing which is before you. Go for your first call. May be you’ll fall at wrong place. But the experience of this wrong place shall eventually get you to the right place.
Also remember: DOING helps you think clearly. DO something.
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A week back I wrote my fears and emailed them to 4 of my friends. Actually we had this activity where everyone in team wrote his fears (personal + business) and shared with the whole group. I wrote few things like: I’m afraid of:
- of what I say. I feel bad, really bad when I don’t fulfil my words
- of being left alone
- being lived in very backward part of the world (but I love it)
- of my past, which has nothing not do with future
- getting insulted in public, for any mistakes which I made some three years back
- having no money
- my bad English.
- etc etc.
- publishing this post (it just came into my mind.)
Here is what I learned from this valuable and (what seemed very difficult at first, but) easy exercise.
1. Some of the fears we have are real, but at the same time the solution is so just on the opposite side of the fear. But we get frightened and do not look at fears for solutions.
2. If you have fear of something, it means you can 100% counter that fear. You posses all the tools, power and whatsoever, fear doesn’t exist without solution.
For example, I’m afraid of not having money, but at the same times. I have abilities to address this. And why I am not afraid of losing the US President election, because I am not interested. That fear is around Obama and other people who’re affiliated with Presidency.
Or you can add other example: Fear of Publishing this post once it is completed. I’m only having this fear now, today, never before. Because this is first time I’m going to write my fears and tell you about them.
3. The point is, you’re afraid when you’re THINKING to make something. Fear is good. It means you are thinking to make. But only thinking doesn’t make anything, so you need to act. And when you act, you eliminate the fear of getting started. And now you are game.
4. What seems you as your weakness, others see that as your strength. (Taught by Peter)
5. Share your fears with true friends, and they can surely help you in some means to get rid of those fears.
6. Everything what we listed as fear, is not fear anymore. It is just that old ego screaming, taking it last chances to protect status quo. (Taught be Ivana)
7. Folks at some big corporate world, list their fears and hopes about the new product or task and share with each member. This help them make the best of their abilities and at the same time, it clears minds.
8. Bonus After doing this exercise I look into my fears with a positive approach, rather than making myself sad about being poor or what ever hell. I have not yet listed my Hopes anywhere. But I shall look into making this possible too.
What you think of writing your fears, and sharing them with some friends? Have you ever done so? Do you think people should do it at companies or in start-up world? Do you believe it can help you make better use of your brain rather then pumping it with fears. I look forward to your words.
Important and more: If you have never written you fears. Even after reading this post. You’ll just get 17% of what it means to write down fears. To get the rest of 83% you need to do it yourself. Go do it.
Thank you to very good friends Peter, Stiivi and Ivana. Without them I would never know why fears exist. And what the hell it has to do with us. I hope you’ll have this fear of writing your fears. Good Luck!
Yesterday morning I spent 90 minutes watching this film, Life In A Day. My friend Sidra, pointed this to me. It is a user generated featured film, shot on July 24, 2010 by hundreds of people from all over the world.
The movie contain best of those shots, representing life which is similar every where in different scenario.
You can watch it free on YouTube, just click on the screenshot below or here. I really hope you too would enjoy watching the movie.
You sense it right, we are getting back at blogging.
Have a wonderful weekend everyone.