Without Knowing the Equation

Hello friends, hope each and everyone is striving to be great. Same is here on my side, 2011 hasn’t been a year of success but still I and you are not done with it.

Some of you might know, these days I’m in my hometown Basirpur, living with my family. But also I’m working on to address some new problems / opportunities. Will tell you more when I’ll be changing my place and responsibilities.

Also I’ve learned something really surprising lately. Here it is.

We enjoy many incidents without ever knowing the true equation behind them.

For example for the last three years I’ve been connecting with new friends, from different social and geographical backgrounds. And the results of these connections have always been incredible, true friendship, business opportunities and learning experience.

But the real equation was revealed to me by a good friend Scott Gould, he stated this.

Diversity unites us.

And today I learned this incredible lesson from a story. As Laozi might have said,

… sometimes the journey of a single step starts with a thousand miles in the opposite direction.

Amazing lesson indeed!

Have you ever had experience something, without knowing what’s going on? Please share your learning in comments below. Thank you.

(story) There is Always a Chance, and There is Always a Choice

Watch this yourself.

” The is always a chance, and there is always a choice. Instead of doing nothing with myself.  I want my son to see me singing on stages because life is too precious to waste. “

Thanks to the best known videos curator Sami Ullah for pointing this video.

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What to Do Today, This Week, Month, Year, and Life

What I am going to do. This is the most important decision we make, because deciding once, what we are going to do, shapes everything.

Let’s say you’re going out with family today. It will shape, who you are going to meet with, what you’re going to eat, how much travel you’ll have to do etc etc.

It was 2003, I remember that day. When I happily asked one of my class mate, if his mother is teacher too (my mother is an elementary school teacher for 27 years). He replied, “No, not at all. We don’t allow women to do such (dirty) jobs.”

And I did never talk to him again. 30 years ago, my mother made a choice, at that time there is was only single school for girls in our town and it was an elementary. She waited for an year, to study further, and then eventually with a lot of hard work she became a teacher. And it changed her life.

She was married, and then things went wrong. My father used to live for months far from us, and that time my mother was alone to feed us, our school fees and every little and big things. I believe if she would not be a teacher, then I would be a motor mechanic or something like that instead of a blogger and digital media learner.

Our goals and tasks make all other decision of our life. It is very simple, e.g, am I going to open Facebook in my browser or read a story, or am I going to write a new post. It decides everything.

For example (please make it real —>), if you decide to take care of your family. You’ll have to make decision like these, not to smoke any more, go for a walk. In short you’ll try your best to give a better person to your family.

Writing this blog has helped me a better human. When I decide to write a post, I do. I look into myself how ‘something which I’m going to write/preach’ relates to me. And it helps me change my actions.

Steve was very right, he emphasized on finding exactly what to do. And it worked well for him. Right now, like most of us, your mind is filled with thousand of ‘to do things‘ don’t bother. Just find on what you are going to do, find it, find it.

Because when you’ll decide what you are going to do. It is gonna change everything for you. And it is gonna change you into a better and happier and of course a healthier person.

Do you have any ‘what to do‘ story to share, or/and please share your leading thoughts in the comments below.

Two years back, I watched a documentry on Nation Geographic, Jailed Abroad, a 30 year old black guy was just released from the jail after 5 years in prison. He commented, ‘I have decided to become a better person for my 6 years old daughter and my wife. I think it is never too late.

He was right. It is never too late. Thank you.

PS. I am working on several things including my book (I have no idea how will the book go), this is why blog is lacking new post. Rest is all fine with me, how’re you?

Speaking Truth to Tell a Lie and The Other Way Around

Sometimes we speak lie to state truth. (Artists face it quite often)

And…

Sometimes we speak truth to tell a lie. (Happens with people not often, but as written sometimes)

It is 4:34 am in Pakistan right now, and I did spend whole night before computer and reading a book.

Now if I tell someone intentionally that I didn’t sleep last night, he will perceive Waqas is very hard working. Which is not always true.

Yes sometimes we speak truth to tell a lie.

and the other way around.

What do you say?

Image from here and here.

Today’s Learning — Behind the World of Online

Behind the world of online, real people exist with real problems.

Yesterday, one of my online friends, who promised to be offline friend too. He passed away, he took his life. No words over this loss.

This is his last tweet

https://twitter.com/#!/treypennington/status/110356735016972288

This is the world we all are creating.

Read more about Trey Pennington

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Some Thoughts on Average Stuff and Typical Days

We talk about the best days of our life, we also keep the memories of bad days closer to us.

We praise the best people around, we also remember those who hurt us.

We either talk about things when they go wrong or when they go awesome.

We talk about how valuable that device or diary is to us, and we complain about stuff which we do not like.

We talk about the best shot of ours, the best photos which helped us win the title. We dislikes some pictures and immediately delete them.

This is very interesting behaviour of us, we talk about things when we love them or when we hate them.

But we hardly talk about average days of our life. We hardly praise average connections of our. We hardly pay attention to those people who’re so-so but have mixed well in our life.

The shopkeeper who always understands the quality you are looking for. The pillow which is with you every night, there to give comfort to you.

Those middle-ranking pictures, which were not remarkable, but which helped you keep capturing the more.

The business deal, without profit or loss.

An average friend, who might not be that great to give a remark, but who always greet you with a Friendly Hello. Who tells you about the homework the day you are absent in class.

Most importantly, we hardly remember those typical days of our life. They days which help us heal, let us get back to normal life. The days which make us ready for an outstanding one.

These average relations, moments and so-so stuff of our life, are very special in a way. They keep us calm and help us carry on.

Just take a deeper look into your neither very good nor very bad days, or an average meal, you will realise they aren’t average.

What do you think?

Turning Tragedy into a Motivation To Do Well

But in Oct 2004, in a plane crash, he lost 10 people from his senior management group, including his 24 year old son and brother. They all were in the same plan, going for a business visit.

Rick said, “You don’t, you can’t prepare for anything like that.”

This is very true, life sometimes gets really very hard. Things can happen what even we are afraid to imagine, but it does.

How should we prepare for that? The answer is, we don’t. Yes it is about staying strong and getting up in a hard way.

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After the disaster, Rick Hendrick, addressed to his emlpoyees, they hired new people in top management. Set up offices a few steps apart to overcome the gaps in their knowldge. And after 40 days, they made to the next race.

Turning tragedy into a motivation tool is not easy, but this is what real leaders do.

And this is what you can do to motivate your team / family or yourself. No one born as a leader, you put yourself to lead the change and this is the moment when world demands you to lead.

None of us really knows, what has life for us, big success or a disaster or anything between. It is not important, the important is to believe that no matter how worse things get, you’ll stand up and stay stand.

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